The greatest blessing afforded to me in this life has been four amazing humans who call me “Mother.”
I have some random thoughts about Mothers and Motherhood I feel like sharing.
Many mothers would rather not celebrate this day. Many mothers feel they have failed in their mothering. Many mothers may feel they have been forgotten. Many mothers are parenting alone. Many mothers have children suffering from physical illness, mental illness, drug addiction, or children in trouble with the law. Many mothers work to help make ends meet, and some even work two to three jobs on top of being a mother. The list of trials mothers may have and may be trying to endure is endless and not one of us endures any of them exactly the same.
WARNING: Do NOT fall into the pit of feeling like a failure.
REMEMBER:
1) Remember your “why” you wanted to be a mother. Most women have a sincere desire to become a mother. They want the opportunity to birth, cradle, cuddle, and love their precious little human.
2) Remember the little hands on your face, the sweet little kisses, the little hand sliding into to your hand, little feet, and the love swelling in your heart with these beautiful moments.
3) Remember when they needed stitches, when they scraped their knees, or when they bruised a body part. And remember, the ONLY person they wanted was “Mommy.” Mommy knows how to make everything better because she has a “Mother’s love.”
4) Remember teaching them to cook or to bake a cake. Their creation may not have tasted very good or turned out, BUT you were there cheering them on. WHY? Because. Because, you have a caring nature that has a desire to teach and nurture. Because, you possess the Mother’s love.
5) Remember watching them grow into adulthood and begin to make decisions of their own. Remember when they left home for college, then married themselves, and began to have a family of their own. Whilst letting go was difficult to do, you could let go and watch their wings spread and take flight. WHY? Because, you love them with every part of your being.
The key ingredient each mother has is “love.” We love unconditionally. We love through the hard times. We love through the good. We love through their successes and even when they may fail. That is just what we do. And for those of us mothers who have had children pass on early in life, we love those special angels with all our heart. We oft times feel that hole in our heart aching, and I believe it is because they took that piece of our heart/love with them. When we feel that piece of our heart missing, I think our angels hold that special piece of our love right next to their angel hearts and give it an angelic hug.
What a blessing it is to be a mother and a Nana! I have incredible children who are doing their best to make the world a better place. I have seven grandchildren and one on the way. Grandchildren make my heart swell. If you have grandchildren, I am sure they make your heart swell too!
When you think you have failed at being a mother, Mother’s Day comes and is a beautiful reminder of “WHY” we do what we do… LOVE.
Happy Mother’s Day
